Holy Sweet Moses
February 14, 2005
In case you're not up on the ins, outs and what have yous, there was an ... uhh ... "interesting" article published by one of Furst's and mine former employers in their February 13th daily newspaper. The article, written by Hanna Ingber and titled "Sometimes old times aren't good times", is possibly available here, but is also mirrored here in the event you like plain text or don't want Orange County's bastion of journalistic integrity & editorial review — the Times Herald Record — to know where you live or how much money you make in a year.
Since the article accuses one of my lifelong friends, his family, one of my cousins, my uncle, and the parents and families in the town I grew up in of being anti-semitic — I figured that's a little too close for comfort and that a response and some commentary on my part is, if not called for explicitly, certainly not out of line. And, since the websites that inspired her article are for the most part hosted on an internet domain that I own and stored on servers that I maintain, I'd like to knock down any sort of "his fake organization exists to undermine jews" rumors before anyone starts coming up with them.
Furst held himself back from doing it, and I was going to go paragraph by paragraph through the article and defend against the claims that are being made, but I can't even begin to do it. I think that they are so baseless that defending them would bring them more credibility than they have. I would like to comment on one particular piece of the article though. Ms. Ingber writes:
In my memory, I was the contentious liberal and he was the contentious conservative. We argued and debated and gave each other dirty looks every chance we got. But by senior year, we had developed a mutual respect for each other.
So then, Hanna, you believe that the correct action to take towards someone that you have a rational "mutual respect" with, when you believe they have wronged you in a way that you thought was below them, in a forum where you have no grasp of the existing context or tone, is "write an article exposing them, their friends and the entire town for committing the wrong" and somehow — inconceivable to me but apparently obvioius to you — is not to "ask them if they mean what you think they mean?" You know, as if it were civil discourse between people who held each other in a feeling of mutual respect.
You, your mother and whomever else was involved in the witch hunt — aka "objective research" — or otherwise encouraged writing an article that brings the reputations and standing of people other than yourself into question without any real foundation — instead of asking around to establish clarity first — should be ashamed and embarrassed on both personal and journalistic levels.
I'm actually more disturbed by what I think really happened. I think you are too intelligent to have actually believed the comments you read were anything but sarcastic. You have enough knowledge of the people involved to know they don't believe what you accused them of believing. If you don't, then perhaps I've overestimated you. I think that you decided, even knowing that it was sarcastic and knowing the damage it might do to my friend and to my family, that this was too easy an "opportunity" for your budding career in journalism to not write about it.
You chose leveling false charges over asking questions. You chose assumption over investigation. You chose for someone else — Eric Furst, Bess Jankowski and their families — to pay the price of you getting a byline, instead of earning one for yourself through the responsible reporting or creative editorializing that we know you are capable of.
Say you had emailed or posted with a simple "so, uh, are you guys really all anti-semitic agenda promoters?" we probably could have steered you into a more accurate view of what was going on. You probably could have saved yourself and your sister the stress, worry and nausea you experienced, saved yourself the time of writing the article (perhaps you could have used the time productively, writing about something happy — or at least true), allowed the accused to re-evaluate (and possibly remove/edit) their words for clarity of meaning or to correct the misunderstanding of purpose, and saved the families of the community we all grew up in and still think of as "home" from sorting out a collection of claims that, as far as I can tell, are at best hurtful, incompetent and ill-conceived — and at worst malicious and slanderous.
I'm proud to call Eric, Bess and their families my friends (and, literally, my family). The shame and embarassment you've just begun to bring on them belongs, in this case, only with you.
For further reading on this subject within the Bigwhoop Universe, you can bring yourselves to these destinations:
Furst - http://furst.bigwhoop.org/archives/002826.html
Bess - http://bess.bigwhoop.org/archives/002828.html
AE - http://ae.bigwhoop.org/archives/002827.html